I mentioned some time ago that I was going to put up a book review for my blogging friend, Melissa R. Cassidy’s book entitled Coming Home: Leaving Busy To Save My Soul. That day has finally come and I so excited to share this book with you!
Why Are We All So Busy?
Have you noticed? Our lives are so full today that many people struggle to even just sit down together as a family at times. Between sports practices, work, daycare, school, band, karate, friendships, going to the gym, etc. our lives are busy, busy, busy, busy. But what is this busyness doing to us?
Melissa R. Cassidy found it was not having a good effect on her or on her family. She says, “I was experiencing burnout, grief, and disillusionment.” And thus the reason why she ended her job and many, many other commitments to truly embark in a journey of obtaining rest.
Her journey, and encouragement for others to do the same are found in her motivating work: Coming Home: Leaving Busy To Save My Soul.
A Few (Of Many) Lessons I Learned About Leaving Busy
I’m Busy Because I’m Afraid
How often have you been asked to do something and immediately thought, “I don’t want to do this” or “This is going to make my life really difficult.” But then you hear yourself say, “Sure! I’d love to!” We’ve all been there right?
For me, most of the time it’s because of fear. I’m afraid to say no. Afraid someone’s feelings will be hurt or afraid I or my kids will miss out on some great thing!
But guess what? If doing those things will actually cause harm to my family or myself in the long term, it needs to be okay to say no.
When Melissa said that word, she “experienced a flicker of something I hadn’t felt in a very long time: Hope.”
Resting Is Not The Same As Being Lazy
At times, I get so busy that I stop caring for myself. I’ve been known to live on 4 or 5 hours of sleep for a couple of weeks because I simply, “Don’t have time to sleep.”
Of course this normally worsens my depression and anxiety. It makes functioning difficult and is just not good all the way around.
Sometimes we need to really breathe and take care of ourselves and truly rest to prevent burnout. There is a time to take a break and to just sit and breathe. And that’s a good thing!
Minimalism Is Conducive To Rest
My husband and I have talked recently about how our home is getting out of control. Christmas was very recent and our home has been bombarded with goodies for our kids! We’ve discussed that there is just too much stuff in our house and it’s making us frantic.
So what is the solution? Having less stuff so we have less to care for and worry about.
You see, when your house is full of things, you just can’t care for it all properly. Or at least, I can’t. As a mom of four kids and an owner of two dogs, I’m busy enough just with that. Much less with hundreds of toys and clothes that don’t even get used sometimes.
God Wants Me (And You) To Leave Busy And Get Some Rest
“Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30 KJV
Obviously this is not the only time God mentions rest. It’s found even in the account of Creation as well as the 10 Commandments. I could write verse after verse after verse and I would definitely encourage you to read them all for yourself, but I’ll not put them all here in this post. For now, just trust the Lord at His Word and know that He wants you to rest. So if you’re not taking the time to rest, you’re being disobedient.
That’s a hard statement, at least for me, but it’s a true one.
So Many More
I don’t want to give away any more of the book, but I do want to say that it has been such a help to me in realizing just how much I need to rest, both short term, and long-term.
The Format of Coming Home: Leaving Busy To Save My Soul
I don’t usually comment on the format of books, but I have to say something about this one. Before I even read the first word I said, “Whoa! I can read this!”
You see, I have some vision problems and sometimes struggle to read long novels as the font is small, the words run together, and I spend so much energy deciphering the words I struggle with finding the meaning.
This book was NOT one of those. It is very nicely double spaced, with a decent sized font as well. There are good spaces between words and it is very read-able. Those things combined with small chapters is excellent in my opinion!
I also want to comment on the contemplation sections at the end of each “part”. You will find questions and a place to take notes at the end of each and every section and I absolutely loved it! While I often ask myself questions as a read, this took the challenge to a whole new level! They helped me to see where I am and where I can improve and even gave ideas on how I can do that.
Are You Ready To Leave Busy?
Get your own copy of Coming Home: Leaving Busy To Save My Soul today! I’d also strongly encourage you to check out Melissa’s blog whenever you can. She just recently started a group study of her book as well!